The February 7th edition and discussion at Russ Hobbs Ministries focused on complaining and bitterness! Here’s what we have to share with you today.
Grumbler, faultfinder, squawker, grouch, whiner, sourpuss, sorehead, moaner, crank, growler, grump, bellyacher, crybaby, mutterer! These are all terms to describe a complainer and miserable wretch.
Grumbling and complaining comes from a root of bitterness that goes so deep that it reaches to the very core of a human being. The problem of complaining goes so deep that it blinds an individual to the actual harm that he or she is doing to themselves. Complaining creeps up on you and overwhelms you before you realize the effect that it is having on your whole personality. Grumbling and complaining consumes us like a fire!
Let’s confront grumbling and complaining with the scriptures. Check out Philippians 2:14-15, 4:11-13, Hebrews 13:5 and Jude 1:16-19. In short the Apostle Paul tells us to do all things without complaining and disputing. He reminds us to shine as lights in this world and be a beacon of hope to others. Further, he states that he understands what it’s like to be in need and he says, “whatever state I find myself in I have learned to be content, I know how to live with nothing, I know how to live with plenty because I have learned that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Paul also reminds us to be content with the things that we possess.
Complaints can be like viruses and it’s important to avoid hanging with habitual complainers. So, just what can a person do about the nasty habit of complaining, grumbling and murmuring 24/7? Here are some suggestions.
- Step back and take a look at the situation of your life that is causing you to foam at the mouth and snarl at the people and circumstances in your life. Take an honest look and don’t sugarcoat the reality of your struggle. Sit down with a pastor, counselor and/or friend and get some honest perspective.
- LOOK WITHIN, you ain’t always right Bubba. What actions of yours exacerbated or worsened the problem. Are you willing to address that openly and honestly? If not, don’t expect much from anyone else or healing for your heart, soul and mind. It takes two to tangle.
- Choose the right channel that is best for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Would a person to person, eyeball to eyeball meeting be better than a text or phone call? Determine the best way to communicate and do it with a loving and Christlike sensitivity.
- Learn how to air your valid concerns without being a jerk about it. More whining just means MORE misery!
- Look for and express the positives.
- Practice gratitude, think about one thing you are grateful for everyday and express it as you give thanks to God.